Who can a Christian Marry?

Someone who is saved, sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost and fire will allow God to lead him in the choice of whom to marry. The Bible teaches that the Christian should not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”(2 Corinthians 6:14) God warned the Israelites just as He is doing right now to us, to take heed that we love the Lord, our God.

"Take good heed therefore unto yourselves, that ye love the LORD your God.

“Else if ye do in any wise go back, and cleave unto the remnant of these nations, even these that remain among you, and shall make marriages with them, and go in unto them, and they to you:

“Know for a certainty that the LORD your God will no more drive out any of these nations from before you; but they shall be snares and traps unto you, and scourges in your sides, and thorns in your eyes, until ye perish from off this good land which the LORD your God hath given you”(Joshua 23:11-13).

If you as a Christian go on your own to consummate a marriage with an unbeliever, you may unwittingly be consummating a marriage that will make life a hell for you, and might mean your eternal damnation. You are a modern-day Samson, a mighty man, the strongest man who made himself the weakest man. You want to leave the family of God to pick a wife from outside? Do not invite us to such a wedding; we will not go there with you. Some people get confused sometimes. Somebody we all know as a brother or sister suddenly comes around that he or she had chosen a wife or husband outside, and you follow the person to such an occasion? You are not a good brother to that person. You are not a good friend to that person. Instead of you to shout, 'What is this that you are doing?'

Some children hold their parents to ransom and force their parents to do what the parents would not have done ordinarily. I don't know but may God help you. He that has an ear to hear, let him hear. A word is sufficient for the wise. You have the right to choose. Joshua told the children of Israel, "Choose you this day whom ye will serve;...but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD”(Joshua 24:15). We will pray for our children. Children, pray for your parents too. The only means by which the sound doctrine will not be trifled with or that we become a shadow of ourselves is by maintaining the standard. Somebody outside will tell you, 'I will come to church with you.'All the forces in hell will make that person renounce even the truth you know. It is unfortunate that when people are going into this error, even when you advise them, they see you as the person who does not understand. They will say, 'Old school,' what is he talking about? By the time your eyes open, you may come back to wail before the person you called 'Old school.!' Your parents you overruled and forced to obey you, by the time you come back and begin to say, 'Mummy, Daddy, 'these were people you treated without regard. The Bible says,“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes”(Proverbs 13:24). 'Spare the rod and spoil the child!' That is where the problem lies. Many parents pamper their children and fail to correct them early as the Bible enjoins. It is not when your child wants to get married that you use the rod. You ought to have used it earlier.But if you are one of the children brought up under such a scenario, you disobey your parents and rule over them. It is when you find yourself in trouble that you run back chanting,'Mummy, Daddy, 'the people you had ignored for too long, Mummy and Daddy whose heart you had broken.

Some parents also try to create obstacles for their children. Some parents do not want their children to get married to certain persons. We are aware of such cases but God will arise for the help of such children. It is not all the time that the children are wrong; sometimes, some parents get unreasonable. May God help us to do the right thing.