Q: Must all Christians marry?

Not All Christian Will Marry

A: Marriage involves a lot of intricacies. Three or four persons can come out of the same family but their life patterns may be different one from another. The relationship of God with each and every one of them would be determined by their consecration. Consecration would lead them to making vows to God. One may say, 'Lord, I consecrate all my being to you and your service.' God may not permit him or her to go into marriage. This is what Paul was talking about when he said some were born eunuch and that some made themselves eunuch unto God. Some consecrate themselves to become God's eunuch and God can Himself make one eunuch if his or her going into wedlock would obstruct His plan for his or her life. You will find that there are men and women of God who never contemplated or have time for marriage at all but all of their time had been consecrated into the service of God. Everything has its own reward.

That they are not going into wedlock does not stop them from sponsoring other people's wedding or attending other people's wedding but their own mind is just not there. Even when you look into the world, it is not everyone in the world that gets married, let alone give birth to children. This is the reason we have to first find out from God His plan for our lives before venturing into praying for husband or wife. Whatever plan God has for our life is the best.

Q: Is it appropriate for a person that had made a restitution to marry a worker in the Gospel? Also, is it necessary for someone who wishes to make restitution to go to court to seek divorce since it is restitution she desires and not that there was a quarrel?

A: Someone who had made restitution and wishes to marry a worker in the Gospel is on a wild goose chase. If you had made restitution, and you are careful and prayerful, it is appropriate you carry your cross and move on without going into marriage again. We would not allow a worker to marry a woman who had made restitution, except he no longer wishes to be a worker. The reason being that we would not wish that people spread falsehood about the Gospel. Take for instance, a woman who had made restitution and got wedded to a worker in the Gospel would naturally open up a cesspool of condemnation. People would argue, whereas these people say there is no divorce or remarriage in their church,but this woman by Brother John's side was formerly married to Mr David. In the scenario, they may not even come forward to ask questions, and we would not be privileged to explain the circumstances of their marriage to gainsayers. Let me clarify this, we are not discouraging anyone who had made restitution and who is willing to still go into marriage from doing so, but she must pray earnestly for a partner in the church. The church cannot conduct such a marriage solemnisation. They can do it whichever way they choose.

In our country, the knowledge of the Sound Doctrine is shallow. What we are teaching here is strange to many settings and many people. What people think is that a man can pick up whosoever he fancies and that is it. What we teach here is for Christians who want to make Heaven their Home. For example, native law in our country recognises cohabitation without any formalities as a sort ofmarriage. It is taken so seriously that if we want to part with the relationship, we have to go to court. Otherwise, the man has authority over the woman as a husband. What we are teaching here is the appropriate way to go into marriage and not how to divorce your partner, kindly note!