Q: Please I still want detailed explanation on knowing the mind of God before going into marriage and its relationship with making Heaven.

Praying Through to a Partner

A:We cannot say too much about the need to pray through to a marriage partner. Knowing the mind of God is critical and the truth is that a wrong marriage is comparable with living in hell on earth. For the man, you may want to serve God in truth and in spirit but your wife would have problem with your keeping your vows with the Lord.He would discourage you from team work and would feign all sorts of things to make life miserable for you. If you are a woman, inability to pray through to a marriage partner is terrible. Some men would ban their wives from paying tithe, telling them, 'Church leaders are eating good meals and riding in big cars; the little we have you want to go and give them again!' The woman would have condemnation of heart. He would make her to give birth after birth, and she would not be able to be anywhere for God. Think of it, those children you born without plan - no training programme, no future plan - that is a way to naturally open door for penury. At the end, the husband may declare, 'Don't let me see you in that church again.' It is that terrible! The woman would get lean and shrink. In that situation, there is nothing the ministry can do. We cannot remove her from her matrimonial home. We can only keep praying for her. It was her lot for having failed to dig deep with God in prayer before marriage.

At times when you have given birth to children and you wake them up for morning devotion to teach them their Sunday school lessons, the father would tell you, 'Don't disturb these children. Children sleep most early morning.' You might conclude that is the children's problem, 'I will keep attending church services on my own.' Sorry, you have missed the point. You cannot cope. The love of your children would keep drawing you, the trouble their father would give you would be too daunting for you to cope.

There will be no sufficient food to feed the children. Their father will not allow you to nurture them in the way of God. You have unwittingly drawn up a waggon that you cannot control. Marriage is a very delicate thing. But God leads and guides His children. May God make us prayer warriors.

“Likewise, ye husbands dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (1 Peter 3:7).